Apologies Are Hard - We Can Help
At some time in our life we all need to apologize for something we've done. Maybe it is small, or maybe it is big. It's difficult to find the right words, and perform the neccessary actions to smooth over a tough situation between co-workers, friends, family and loved ones. And sometimes we want to apologize, but we don't know how to get started. We're here to help.
Love Languages
One of the most popular relationship books on the market is called The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman. The book identifies five love languages (quality time, words of affirmation, gifts, acts of service, and physical touch) and states that each of us have a primary love language that makes us feel more loved. For example, some women feel more loved when they get flowers or jewelry (gifts) while others feel more loved when you touch them and hug them (physical touch).
The Key Elements of a True Apology
There are three vitally important aspects to an apology that will determine how the apology is received. So when you apologize, be sure to: Be Sincere, Take Responsibility for Your Actions, Provide a Sincere Promise that You'll Try to do Better.
Saying I'm Sorry Affects Your Partner's Health
Taking the time to apologize dramatically reduces the tension in a situation. In fact, an August 2002 Psychology Today article titled "I'm Sorry" states:
"An apology is crucial to our mental and even physical health. Recent research shows that receiving an apology has a noticeable, positive physical effect on the body. An apology actually affects the bodily functions of the person receiving it -- blood pressure decreases, heart rate slows and breathing becomes steadier."
People Respect Someone Who Can Apologize
You've probably heard the saying, "it takes a big man to admit he was wrong." This is more true than you and I will ever know. People respect someone who can say "I'm sorry". And what's more is that it is easier to forgive someone who apologizes. A person who never apologizes is often viewed as stubborn, hard-headed, insincere, and non-caring. Is that how you want to be viewed?
So next time you need to apologize, go out of your way to do it right, mean it, and correct the problem that led to you needing to apologize in the first place. You'll be a much better person because of it.
How to Apologize for Cheating on Your Partner
We all make mistakes, and some are bigger than others. No one can deny the fact that Cheating on a spouse or committed partner is a big one. So what do you do once the damage is done, and better yet, how do you deal with the problem and fix the situation, can it be fixed?
How to Apologize To A Friend
We all know what an apology is - an expression of remorse or guilt over having done something that is acknowledged to be wrong, and a request for forgiveness. But we also know it can be really hard to swallow our pride and say "I'm sorry." If you have a difficult time making amends for mistakes or repairing the effects of angry words, here's how to keep your dignity while being humble, and invite forgiveness with grace.
