5. Cut off communication - Obviously your partner isn't the only one involved in this now that you've cheated. You've taken an outsider into it as well. The person you cheated with. You need to contact this person, under the supervision of your partner, and explain to him that your actions were wrong. If you wish to stick it out with your partner that is you must cut off all ties to the 'lover'. The hard part to this is often times, the 'lover' is someone close to your life, a co-worker, a friend, the bartender at your local hang out...but you will have to find a way to maintain the professional relationship and ignore whatever feelings you have. Again this is only if you're going to continue to try and make it work with your partner.

6. Patience - Try counseling and if things don't improve or you both find you hold feelings of resentment towards the other then it's best to cut your losses and split. Not all problems can be fixed in a relationship, and sometimes what you want, and whats healthiest for the both of you are two very different things. Don't set a time limit for how long your spouse is "allowed" to remain hurt or angry. By refusing to answer questions or acting like it's time to move on before your spouse is ready, is not a good plan. You started this process in motion so you must be prepared to deal with the mess your selfishness left behind. Remember, it takes a moment to breakdown trust and a lifetime to re-build it.

- Don't place blame, or try to justify your actions. Nothing but admitting fault and apologizing, and communicating about the problem will help the situation.

- Make sure you deliver a complete and proper apology to your partner. The apology itself won't remedy the situation but a perfect apology CAN be the first step in the long road to forgiveness.