One of the most popular relationship books on the market is called The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman. The book identifies five love languages (quality time, words of affirmation, gifts, acts of service, and physical touch) and states that each of us have a primary love language that makes us feel more loved. For example, some women feel more loved when they get flowers or jewelry (gifts) while others feel more loved when you touch them and hug them (physical touch). Some women feel more loved when you spend time with them (quality time) and others when you praise them (words of affirmation).

It's important to know your partner's love language so that when you apologize, you can factor in their love language. For example, let's say your partner is a female whose primary love language is gifts. When you apologize, you need to bring flowers or a card to stronger reaffirm your apology. However, if her love language is touch, you softly touch her when you apologize, hug her, and cuddle with her. You need to be speaking her language when you say "I'm Sorry".